Last week I shared some ideas regarding how to generate conversations where you could learn about your partner through planned spontaneity. This week, I’d like to jump ahead to a point in the relationship after you’ve had a few dates or have been a couple for a short period of time. The goal is still to learn more about your partner. However, this ti it’s going to require a lot of planning. It could take several hours and is assuming that you’ve done your job during previous dates and have actually listened to things that she’s shared with you to this point. There is virtually no end to the number of variations for this adventure.
I’m going to use a park again for this example. In case you haven’t picked up on it yet, I’m sort of fond of the outdoors and parks in particular because the setting is so effective at creating a relaxing and fun-loving atmosphere.
Come up with a list of questions to ask your partner. It can be as few or as many as you like. In preparation for this date, take a stroll around the park to see what amenities are offered so that you can generate your list of questions. Each attraction should correlate to the question which will (hopefully) bring to light memories from her youth or plans for the future. It’s a scavenger hunt of knowledge. The best part is that you can answer the same questions so that you can learn about one other.
How you ask the questions is completely up to you, but here are a couple of suggestions.
- Carry a map of the park with the questions written on the back.
- Place an envelope with each question placed somewhere at the destination.
- Stuff a question inside a balloon and have her pop it to read the question.
The types of questions you ask require careful selection and use of your memory. (You don’t want to ask the same question twice.) Pick your brain about previous conversations and dates that revolved around getting to know her. This is an added benefit to the pomp and flare for these occasions. The more memorable the occasion, the easier it is to remember. For example, let’s say your date was a soccer player in high school. Upon arriving at the soccer field, you could ask her about her favorite game, their biggest rival, any injuries she sustained during a soccer game, how she got into playing soccer – you get the idea.
Again, there is virtually no end to the number of variations this date can have, the types of questions being asked or the number of times you can repeat this event. The time and care you take to prepare for a date like this will, no doubt, bring a smile to your date’s face and help strengthen or build a strong foundation from which you can learn about one another. If you would like help setting up a date using this theme, please feel free to contact me and I will be more than glad to discuss variations based on your particular needs.
See you next week!