Before you say anything… yes, I’m aware that it’s been quite some time since I’ve posted on here. Forgive me – I beg you.

You see, I’ve been hard at work trying to follow the advice that I’ve offered here and working on my book that is a more complete guide to dating for men. A lot of my ideas seem to go over extremely well; especially with my girlfriend. She is, indirectly, part of the reason for my absence.

The woman for whom I moved half way up the eastern seaboard. Photo courtesy of Brownlee's Portrait Cottage.

For those who don’t know, we lived in separate states for awhile. She in PA and I in NC. I recently moved to be with her. Anyone who has ever moved knows what a pain it can be. But now I’m back! Don’t fret too much. I will stay true to form and attempt to assist you in your never-ending courtship.

Valentine’s Day is a day for lovers. Every day is a day for lovers in my humble opinion, but that is the one day of the year where even the most boneheaded, ignorant men are wise enough to do something for their partner. I like to take traditional ideas and add a little something to them.

For Tina, I took the liberty of giving her a single rose for the entire week leading up to V-Day. Each day was celebrated by a different color rose and a note explaining the meaning of that particular color as well as how it applied to us. As a way to step a little further away from tradition, I had the rose waiting in the mailbox for her every evening as she came home from work. As a finishing touch, I had yet another flower awaiting her return for the day after Valentine’s.

But it wasn’t a rose. I had presented her with an orchid at work not too long ago and she was constantly gushing about how much she loved it. So I took the initiative and got one for our home as well; included was a note that read, “Just Because.”

My advice for this week is in keeping the idea to celebrate love, not only on Valentine’s Day, but every day of the year. Remember that the courtship never ends. Even in marriage, the only thing you ever win is the opportunity to continue doing exactly what you did in the beginning to earn her attention.

If you’re having trouble finding inspiration, please follow @jabsloveletters on Twitter. She has mastered the art of celebrating every love, every day.

Until next time…(I promise it won’t be as long this time)



3 thoughts on “Returning

  1. Wow! I live by this code:
    “Remember that the courtship never ends. Even in marriage, the only thing you ever win is the opportunity to continue doing exactly what you did in the beginning to earn her attention.”

    Thanks for sharing this fact to your readers. I know of too many men (and women) who feel the courtship stage is something which ends once you’ve got past the dating stage and entered into a relationship. NOT!

    The way you court your partner is the same way you keep them.

    • Thank you for taking the time to respond. Continued courtship is something that everyone seems to forget. The thing about it is that the principle can be applied to ANY relationship. Business relationships are the same way. If you drop the ball on doing things that you did to win a client in the beginning, you will lose them in the end. Same with friends and of course, husbands/wives. Thank you for reading!

  2. petrified07 says:

    This is very inspiring! If only all the male species out there can just express their love openly then I believe this world will become a better place. I for one who has enjoyed marital bliss for twelve years now agree with you that courtship should never end. The number of children or grandchildren, the appearance of wrinkles and gray hair or even the countless petty fights and misunderstandings a couple had in years is not a deterrent for love to diminish. I don’t see a reason why people should even get tired of showing their love to someone and for me alone, the best gift that a father could give to his children is to love their mother forever.

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